The 12 ‘Shoulds’ of Christmas

I have had the same response from every one of my clients in the last couple of weeks when I mention Christmas – or ‘The Holidays’ as it is called here in the US which also encompasses Thanksgiving. ‘Urgh!’ – or some variation of that. Isn’t Christmas supposed to be a happy time? And yet so many people have the ‘urgh’ response. I make a point of addressing it in our sessions because it really highlights the family ‘stuff’ and most particularly the ‘shoulds’. You should be with family, have fun, put up decorations ……… see the list below and
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Are you a grown up?

How grown up are you? Ha. There’s a question! What does that even mean – to be ‘grown up’? I was listening to a talk by Ken Wilbur (Author ‘A History of Everything’ + other books) and he was talking about the 4 stages of growing up. Stage #1 is where we all start when we are born – selfish and ego-centric! In other words we only care about our own needs. That makes sense since we are only concerned about being fed and cared for. Stage #2 is when we also care about our own group. Our own family,
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Princess Diana and how to Love Yourself Fully!

Last night I was watching a documentary about Princess Diana and it struck me how, underneath the ‘story’ our limiting beliefs are really all the same. Diana’s belief was she felt alone and unwanted. But why? She was born into a wealthy, entitled family, went to private schools and married a Prince. Seems a long way from ‘alone and unwanted’ and yet you know from her story that she actually DID feel that way. So where did that come from and how does it relate to your story? Well it started at birth. She was the third daughter. Her parents
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Want to save the World? Here is how!

I woke up this morning with a sense of heaviness. I see from other FB posts today that I was not the only one. There is, seemingly, good reason for it. Right here in Central Oregon there are so many wild fires that the air quality is now considered ‘Very unhealthy’. The sky is cloudless (so I am told) but we can’t see it the smoke is so thick. Floods in Texas with several deaths and thousands homeless. In India they also have serious flooding with over a thousand deaths and millions homeless. Politics and unrest around the world. The
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The Rebel and the Good Girl

During several sessions this week my clients and I have seen an interesting and very important dynamic going on. Let’s start at the beginning…..   In the beginning there was …. YOU When you were born there were no rules to follow. As a young child you were ‘free’ to be yourself – your essence if you will. You knew who you were and what you wanted without thought or analysis. It was not a conscious thing – you just knew. You were simply being YOU. Rules from 2 to 62 As you grew you were taught that there were
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The Language of Spirit ….. and How You Think.

Last night I watched the movie ‘Arrival’. I highly recommend it! It is about  a language expert (Amy Adams) trying to communicate with aliens and learn their language. What absolutely stopped me in my tracks was the remark that when you learn a new language you also think differently.   When you learn a new language … you think differently I immediately went to a phrase I often use that Spirit has been teaching me their language and, in turn I help others to learn it too. And YES I absolutely do think differently because of that. It makes sense.
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